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  • Kacie Duncan

I am told that I am "too much"

I found this picture and thought, JEEZE I am too much. It’s a comment I get a lot. People say things like “who do you think you are” and “you are too much for me.” It is probably because….

I can’t whisper.

I am so freaking loud that I get told by total strangers to lower my voice. But, I cannot help it. I physically am unable to whisper. The quiet gene just did not get into my DNA.

I laugh at my own jokes. Out loud. Shoulders shaking. Pee your pants laugh.

I don’t return most text or phone calls until 3 days later and I suck at keeping plans. I can be a total sketch.

I’m super dramatic. If the situation is at a 3/10 I can easily take it to a 10/10 in seconds. I can elaborate a story with the best of them. I swear I should have been on Broadway.

I am a diva at times. I like fake eyelashes, fake nails, and a fake tan. I like what I like and am pretty unapologetic about it.

I spend more money than I save. Target, Hobby Lobby, and Home Goods are my jam and personal haven.

Starbucks coffee taste better than coffee at home and I spend a small fortune on iced vanilla lattes with caramel drizzle.

I will spend 300.00 dollars at the grocery store just to hit up the drive-thru at Little Caesar’s pizza because I am too worn out from shopping to cook dinner.

Without fail my romaine lettuce for my diet, “I’m gonna start on Monday” goes bad in my refrigerator before I even eat one salad.

You get it. I have flaws and imperfections.

I’m not perfect, far from it, but I’m honest about the things that make me, ME. 

Society spends a great deal of time telling us how to be a less loud version of ourselves. 

You will be told you are too honest. Too real. Don’t talk about that, people cannot know what you are really feeling.

You will be told to fit in or normalize. You may be told your dreams are silly or stupid. You may be taunted, laughed at, or mocked for stepping out of what is “expected of you”.

Sorry not sorry but you can’t confine me to a box and girl you shouldn’t either! You have a light that is too bright to be hidden. The world may want to squeeze you into a box but I am here to tell you that you will never fit.

You have two choices in life. You can stay exactly where you are because you are afraid of what people will think about you chasing and pursuing what sets your soul on fire OR you can say, to hell with what people think—I am going to chase this dream, work my butt off, and be a more open, raw, authentic, version of MYSELF.

Stop letting people extinguish what sets your soul on fire. Be proud of what makes you standout.

You are uniquely and creatively YOU. The quirks, hiccups, and oddities are all things that make you so freakin’ awesome.

That is something to be celebrated not just occasionally but daily.

Think about all the things you could achieve if you let your inner self out and stopped naming all the reasons why you can’t be something.

Literally, nothing could stop you.

So, stop letting society water you down. Own who you are. Be loud about what you believe. Let your passions run wild. Be silly. Be Bold. Be funny. Be the fruity cocktail of crazy beautiful you were intended to be and oh sister, the places you will go.



Hey girl hey! My name is Kacie Duncan.

I am many things but my favorite titles are: Christian, Wifey, Boy Mama, and Writer.

I write about what I know which is motherhood, balancing career and family, and mental wellness.

I have dealt with anxiety and panic attacks for the majority of my life. As I became an adult and the pressure of life became more intense I wasn't able to hide it anymore. I didn't know who I could talk to about this. As I looked around places like social media, I had a very difficult time finding people like me. Mental health, specifically anxiety, was not being talked about. I vowed that my experience would not be wasted and that I would focus on being an advocate, support person and light to people who experienced anxiety and panic attacks.

So, not only am I inspired by everyday life I am very passionate about sharing my personal stories of dealing with anxiety and sharing them in a vulnerable, genuine light. 

I hope you find this page helpful, inspiring, and even a little bit funny.

Happy Reading!


Kacie Duncan



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